Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller


  • Release Date: Dec 30th, 2010
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 232 Ratings


We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


  • Simply Amazing

    By derekmshaw
    This book was instrumental in healing from my divorce and helped put me on a new path for my life. Whether you are in a relationship or experiencing the ending of one, this book will help you understand yourself and your partner.
  • Spot-on

    By JTS131
    Reading this was like reading about my own life. It’s good to have a little background information about attachment psychology, but the authors do a great job of providing clear and realistic examples. Eye-opening and necessary to fix problematic relationship behavior and understand yourself more deeply.
  • Awesome book

    By vegasboyyoshi
    Great book to know know what you’re.
  • Good book to learn effective communication

    By 3carnivores
    It is a good book to learn yourself and improve the communication styles. It is focused on that topics and somewhat over simplified other complicating factors. It is important for the readers to know the limitation and wisely apply themselves.
  • Attached

    By Hopeflul
    This book made me realize why I have such a hard time being in a relationship. I'm the rare anxious/avoidant attachment style. It's impossible to to want someone in my life at the same time not wanting to feel smothered by too much attention. I'm working with a therapist who is a specialist in trauma and uses the Internal Family Systems therapy.
  • Eye opening

    By hopeafin
    Currently nursing a broken heart and sorting through all kinds of emotions. A friend recommended that I read this book to better understand myself and also my ex. It was a great read and forced me to hold a mirror to myself. Also made me hopeful that in the future, I can not only work on myself in a relationship but I can pick a partner and weed out incompatible ones more quickly.
  • Very Eye Opening

    By Slimm210
    I very much enjoyed this book and learned so much about myself and the significance of staying true to yourself. A lot of these relationship books can make you feel like there's something wrong with you and most issues in your romantic relationships are your fault. Looking forward to applying what I've learned and meeting the right person.
  • 10/10

    By MrGJr488
    Extremely good read. After realizing I've had attachment issues for a great portion of my adult life, reading this book helped me gain a bit of clarity. If you are looking to understand yourself and your relationship better, this book is for you.
  • Superb

    By AnujTaneja
    Must read for anyone to gain insight into the science of attachment and the role it plays in relationships
  • Break up cycle

    By cancan82
    If you are stuck in an on again off again this will help you get out of the anxious/avoidant trap. Reading other case studies was so awaking. I now know to find someone who can meet my needs and it really is "it's not you its me"!!!! Don't beat yourself up when the relationship doesn't work.